I've been thinking about a couple things for a while now.
When exactly do you know that your friends are drifting away from you?
And I don't meant that they start talking to new people and you get all jealous and shiz. No. I'm talking more about that intuition you get, when you just know
that you aren't as close as before; that you have less and less things to talk about; and finally, that if you don't try and fix it, your bond may break and you will pass to be strangers again.
But that also leads me to my next question: How can you be sure that this is
what is happening, and it isn't an over reaction?
I guess this is natural. Friends that may become really close to you and, after a time, you feel more of a stranger to them than even before you befriended them in the first place.
You change your interests, your view of the world, your very own context, etc, and you may not be compatible anymore.
It just really pains me that this is a thing that happens.
I have some examples, though the one I'm willing to share is one of a friend I made in middle school. We were in the same class, and we'd known each other for a year by that point. All three years of middle school we were the best of friends. We shared everything, we knew one another so well that it was surreal even. We had almost the same interests and we could talk for hours to no end.
And when we entered high school, after a year or so, something changed. I have no idea of what that was, but she began reaching less and less for me. I tried to keep going what we had before, but she wouldn't put anything of her part to help. She'd answer when I called, but didn't even once try to contact me herself.
Now we are in the same classroom again. We've been for half a year. And to this day, we haven't said a single word to each other.
And it's not because we're angry. I guess the connection was lost at some point during the way.
That is just one example of what has happened in my life (there are many other stories like this), but I would just really like to know why you think this happens.
Why do we lose that connection with people? And I don't mean only common interests, but rather, that link that makes you think that your minds are syncronized. That connection that makes you see that person as an important part of yourself.
And more importantly: Why is that loss one-sided at times? Why, at times, it's only one person who loses it, deataches from it, and leaves the other hanging and in a lot of pain -since they just can't
break that bond as the other apparently did?
I guess those are my questions. I doubt I'll find an answer, but I had to let them out of my system.
Out of the gloomy-everlasting-mood and on to the tag.
tagged me on the music meme, though since I don't have a premium membership I don't think I can post the videos so you can listen to the songs here; so I'll just post the links instead ;v;
1) Write down every letter in your name.
2) Write down a song that pops into your head beginning with each letter.
3) Count the number of letters and TAG that many people.
1) A: Again
by My Darkest Days Link
2) N: Neonland
by Detektivbyrån Link
3) D: Dirty Harry
by Gorillaz Link
4) R: Rhapsody in Blue
by Gershwin Link
5) E: E for Extinction
by Thousand Foot Krutch Link
6) A: Ai Catch
by Goatbed Link
7) Z: I couldn't find a song starting with Z ;^;AND NOW I TAG:
And whomever else wants to do it ;v;
Have a nice day!